December podcast - Freedom from Adaptive Behavior to Sexual Exploitation
If you have been sexually imposed upon or violated at anytime in your life, you may have developed adaptive behavior in how you relate to others. In our December podcast, Janet Smith talks about this important subject and how to walk forward into new beginnings and freedom from the past.
By the end of 2005 and beginning of 2006, we will see Isaiah 21 breaking out all over the place. “Like whirlwinds sweeping through the southland, an invader comes from the desert from a land of terror.” - Isaiah 21:1 NIV.
In January of 2005, the Lord spoke to George through a dream in the night saying, “In a year from now, you will see Isaiah 21 breaking out all over the place.” George understood the word to mean that the spirit of Babylon in our country (i.e., the insatiable pursuit of materialistic gain and the oppression of the poor) would be judged and that God would raise up Deliverers and empower them to bring help and justice to the poor and oppressed in the land.
Is what is happening in our natural realm with hurricanes (whirlwinds) the entire scope of the calamity, or is it symbolic of another calamity to come, i.e., “an invader comes from the desert, from a land of terror?” Are these hurricanes a natural and symbolic representation of another invasion to come from a “land of terror?” Comment on it. What do you think? Let’s talk.
We’re not ready for change if we’re not willing to be changed. Resistance to change comes in many different packages. For example, we could be resisting change if we want everyone to act on their beliefs and values in the same way as we act. “Change Resistors” often call anything that confronts the status quo of established, expected behavior, “a rebellion.” Yet these very acts of perceived “rebellion” often serve as agents of change—or the impetus for new beginnings.
Whether the “rebellion” was born out of good or bad motives is determined in the outcome—both immediate and long term. Sometimes it’s a mixture, and the good must be extracted and preserved while the bad is disgarded. By the Spirit of our living God, we can be keen and unafraid as we discern the changes happening in our world. Our anchor point is the truth of Jesus Christ, and Jesus was the type to call a person out of a boat and expect them to believe that they could walk on water without fear or doubting.
You cannot "give to God" what you do not own. If fear, jealousy, and control own any part of our heart about a certain matter or a relationship; then fear, jealousy, and control "own" that part of us and squash our relationships. So why are we fearful, jealous and controlling? Listen to the 8-21-05 podcast message for an indepth view. We value your comments about this subject or our podcast messages. Please post them by clicking on "comments" below.
George and Janet Smith talk about the importance of
being real with God, ourselves, and others.
Waiting for God to bring change.
Click here: Janet Smith talks about the season of enduring.
Make the foundational aspects of close and intimate relationships revolve around your securities, not your insecurities. Why?
The importance of “loving” and “fearing” our Heavenly Father
Click here: George Smith talks about our relationship with our Father God
The opposite of love is not hate, it is fear.
Our worst enemy is not Satan–the devil.
Our worst enemy is our fears, upon which the devil preys.
Love actually drives out fear. If we follow the way of love, our fears will subside.
By his perfect example, Jesus has shown us the way of love. In order to become free from fear then, we are to follow Jesus’ example and direction. "There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life–fear of death, fear of judgment–is one not yet fully formed in love." I John 4:18 (The Message)
Do you feel intimately connected to Jesus?
Do you feel a passionate love for Jesus?
Or do you feel a distant sense of obligation to acknowledge his divine status and—because he made the rules—follow all his rules?
Learning the difference between a performance-based “love” relationship and a faith-based love relationship directly translates into how we relate to Jesus himself. A performance-based relationship with Jesus inhibits us from being real and authentic. In a faith-based relationship with Jesus, we don’t have to pretend to be something we are not in order to please him. We simply, in faith, receive his constant, unconditional love and, from that vulnerable state of trust and hope, we respond to his instructions and direction with reverent submission.
A faith-based love relationship is what allows us to love and obey Jesus without fear of failure and shame. Deep down we accept the hard truth that Jesus absolutely loves and cherishes us to the very core of our being. We even accept that he loves us enough to sacrifice his own life in exchange for ours.
When we let the unconditional acceptance of Jesus in, the truth of it will tear down our inner walls of defensive self-protection and sprout in us a desire to be open, honest and vulnerable. We actually appreciate that we don’t have to hide and protect ourselves from God’s intimate involvement with our secret interior. We can come to Jesus just as we are and he will heal our wounds and make us whole. When you are hurting and someone comforts you, doesn’t that make you feel really good toward that person? You could eventually feel passionately good about them after enough healing encounters, couldn’t you?
A performance-oriented relationship with Jesus thinks, “if I just fulfill my to-do list, then Jesus will love me and I will deserve his love and get his blessings.” Performance-based thinking also says, “I can not be open and honest with Jesus—or with the community of his followers—about my failures and weaknesses until I have cleaned them up myself. Therefore, I will hide the real ‘me’ and pretend to be the ‘good Christian’ who has it all together.”
A faith-based love relationship believes that, “before I did anything to deserve it, Jesus loved me. I receive the free gift of complete, unconditional love that Jesus has for me and I submit to accepting his wise and comforting instructions for living my life. I choose to follow Jesus everyday.”
After believing and accepting his unconditional love, everything I do “right” and in union with God is grounds for affection, pleasure and delight, but will never supercede the fact that first, he loves every single one of us completely and the same—sinful or not-so-sinful.
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